Playing it Safe on a Blind Date   by Paul Jam

in Relationships / Dating    (submitted 2011-02-01)

Blind dates, like all dates, are tricky business. You have two people who know very little about each other meeting for the first time for the purpose of starting a relationship. Not only do you have the nerve-inducing activity of a first date to contend with but, you also have the uncertainty of meeting someone you might not like or ever want to see again. On a practical note, blind dates have a bit of an inherent risk involved since you are technically spending the evening with a complete stranger.

Trust Yourself Not Your Friends

Well-meaning friends like to play matchmaker. While you probably shouldn't dismiss every possible match they present you with, you should be extremely discerning. If the friend doing the matchmaking has a track record of not always making the best decisions, make sure you carefully consider that history before agreeing to a date. Also, if you get a not-so-good feeling when hearing about a potential date, there's probably good reason. Go with your gut and don't be afraid to say not to the would-be matchmaker.

Safety First

Once you agree to a blind date, always make safety a first priority. Here are a few tips to help you stay safe.

• Meet at the location. Instead of having your blind date pick you up, meet at the date location. Don't give out your address too soon.

• Busier equals better. Make sure your date is at a public, busy spot. Just like your mother always said, there really is safety in numbers.

• Avoid giving out personal information. Be a good conversationalist but keep the topics light. Don't delve into your personal habits or give out any information that you might regret.

There's no reason to be scared of going on a blind date when you trust your gut and keep safety first.

About the Author

Paul J is a writer, ladies man, and activist. He was first introduced to Neil Strauss technique 2 years ago. Since then he has dated some great looking women. He has confidence where before he was shy. He writes for the man he once was.