Why Can't I Get My Ex Back?   by T.W. Jackson

in Relationships / Love    (submitted 2012-01-30)

Have you tried everything in your power to get your ex back? Do you feel like you're banging your head against the wall or trying to nail Jell-o to a tree without getting the results you were hoping for? While there isn't an exact science involved in getting your ex back there is a certain degree of art to the process. Perhaps it's time for a new approach to an old problem?

Stop Taking Your Cues from Hollywood

Happy endings are the story of the day when it comes to Hollywood films. Very few deal in unhappy endings. Fewer still provide realistic situations and scenarios when it comes to love and romance. In fact, most of them are quite useless in the real world where emotions are running wild and, face it, the other person isn't following a pre-defined script.

Hollywood tells the guy to go after the girl and pursue her with determination. In the real world, the likely result is a terrified ex girlfriend and a restraining order. Hollywood tells the girl that her tears will make him see the light of day and remember that he really is in love with her. In real life they make him uncomfortable and lead him to search for the nearest possible exit from the situation.

Hollywood is a great escape. But it's important to remember that it is fiction that is very loosely based on reality. More importantly, you owe it to your relationship and your ex to put a little more thought behind your "make up" attempts than following dated movie scripts.

Give Your Ex a Little Wiggle Room or Space

This is possibly the hardest thing you'll ever do but if your ex wants to walk away the best thing you can do is to let him or her go. In fact, agree with them that now is a good time to let things lie. AGREE to the breakup. Don't fight it at all.

I know you've just banged your head on the keyboard thinking this is the nuttiest thing you've ever heard but it will accomplish two things that no amount of begging, pleading, or bargaining with your ex ever will.

First, it will give your ex pause. Your ex is expecting you to put up a fight. Your ex, to some degree wants you to put up a fight. This is one of the ways your ex plans to validate that he or she was right to leave - because everything is a fight between the two of you. Agreeing to the breakup completely takes the wind out of your ex's sails.

Second, it makes your ex start to think that, perhaps, he or she has some of the responsibility for things not working out between the two of you. Your ex is going to start to wonder what he or she did wrong. It puts your ex, to some extent, on the defensive rather than the offensive.

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